Welcome to my "Kira's Blog"!
I thought that this would be an easy and helpful way of staying in more contact. I get so many emails I don't get to answer them all, or take so long in answering some people wonder if I am still getting their emails! So I thought I could share bits and pieces of interest here, post them as they come along into my life.
21 years ago I fell in love
21 years ago I fell in love - with the country, people and culture of Nepal It continues to be an amazing, growing, deepening and empowering journey! The last two years have been especially an exponential experience of growth since enduring the massive earthquake alongside my Nepali friends and families. Please enjoy to read this news update I compiled where I share some of the complexities and achievements in the past two years. I am so appreciative of the many people who are part of my life & journey - love is indeed a shared experience! ♥
Laughter Medicine is good for Mind, Body & Soul!
Our ability to laugh, play and connect with each other and our surroundings is a natural gift that allows our bodies to be healthier, our mind to relax, our creative spirit to engage and our hearts to be happier There is immense value in literally laughing out loud till your belly hurts – the healthy endorphins released wonderfully naturally counter the daily stresses that we tend to accumulate and automatically hold onto. Even in difficult and imprisoned (physical and mentally) situations we can find freedom when we allow it ... this short video is a lovely reminder to play, enjoy and laugh...
Good Morning 2017!
Good morning 2017, I wonder what this year will be?
I was contemplating this question as I sat this New Years early morning in one of my most favourite places in the world, the Whian forest - a magical place - full of so much diversity. When I am in Nature it is always a reminder to me about the complexity of Life and the wholeness of Life. Sitting in amongst the decay, the broken branches and uprooted trees and yet all about me is new growth, new life coexisting with death. This could be a metaphor for 2017. Many people faced challenges and difficulties 2016 (and previous years!) so perhaps our outlook for 2017 can be one of inclusion. Including that there are challenges and difficulties - we can't deny them anyway! That would be like saying: “hey, that big uprooted tree is not there” when in fact it is! Sometimes we just need to make our way regardless, to find our own path realising that sometimes we may need to cut our path through the challenges, difficulties and obstacles that life presents us with. What has often been a support for me is to focus on where the new Life is. I have always had a curious nature and that has supported and helped me to look for what else is 'here' even when challenges and difficulties arise.
If you have trouble finding the new growth in your own life then perhaps take some time in Nature. Take some time to sit quietly; close your eyes take a few deep breaths before softly opening your eyes in a gently receptive way. Be open to see what you may not ordinarily let yourself see, allowing yourself to be surprised. Allowing ourselves to be surprised, giving space for what we really truly don't know; what may be unexpected in nice ways. And when something does cross our path to take that extra moment, even if your mind has decided it's not good or it is something unpleasant or a too hard – to gently remind yourself and say, “I don't know”. Maybe, just maybe, there is something more in this situation than I thought, maybe there's something that I can't see because I don't know just yet. Giving space for not knowing can open doorways into opportunities and certainly can help release tensions that we hold when we are invested and supporting our fear. If you look at a little child - say five or six years old - just playing, giving themselves permission to laugh and get it wrong - when they drop something, they simply pick it up again. That innocent twinkle in their eyes not judging that dropping the ball is wrong, it’s fun, it’s a game, drop it again and again!
How would it be if we were like that with ourselves, investing in that childlike innocence and sweetness? I think we can touch that innocence but we need to remember. Remembering to support ourselves and also to be supportive of each other. Sometimes we can get caught up in our daily life - it is very easy for our mind that is conditioned to look for problems to focus then on problems, fear and anxiety. Yet if we can remember to smile and chuckle to ourselves, to play a bit, then perhaps we might see more in that moment about the situation that can help us navigate with more ease, grace and with more space in our heart.
Coming back to 2017 as the year of inclusion - I don't know what that means! Perhaps I can tell you at the end of this year 😇 Each of us will have an individual journey and your message on this first day of 2017 will be uniquely yours. Perhaps we may have some resonances such as unexpected nice surprises or being delighted in many small ways throughout this year by the gifts that life will present to us on our path.
I look forward to crossing paths with some of you over the next year and for some of you who I may not physically get to see, please know that I often feel in touch with many of my friends and people who I have met in different contexts – I experience a sense of wider community and with all of us (who are to the best of our ability!) consciously exploring and looking for our own potential and that of humanity.
I end with a heartfelt wish on this New Year of 2017, a year that is exactly right for you 💕
Respond with kindness and care … not fear.
Thank you for those who reached out to ask if I was safe after the heartbreaking event in Berlin (Dec 19th) - I was not in Berlin at the time but in Australia far from the current event physically yet close in my heart to all these who maybe feeling distress, sadness and fear right now. I deeply feel for those who are directly affected and share my heartfelt love & care & simply holding "you"
I sincerely ask all of us right now to respond to each other with kindness and care ... and to not support fear. Events like this are perpetuated by those who are not in balance - they need our compassion, not fear & aggression. This does not negate grief or heart ache - it is truly human to feel for those who have lost their lives so suddenly and violently, and I especially feel for their families and beloveds who may struggle right now to understand what has happened. Yet I truly ask all my friends to reach inside to find a deeper capacity for truth and understanding right now. And to be particularly aware of what stories you share and post online. I suggest that you ask yourself if the communication you are intending on sharing is invoking compassion or fear? For another human to intentionally cause harm or death to another generally means they are not mentally stable/balanced - which can be for various reasons. Being angry "at" them does not help anyone. If anger or upset is arising then perhaps delve inside to find another level of truth for yourself and explore what that might mean for you.
And, I say again, I feel deeply for those who have personally been affected by this Berlin event either directly or indirectly ... as I feel with so many who are feeling the effects of man made &/or natural violent events unfolding around the world ... May we turn to each other in times of despair with kindness and care ❤️
Satori time in Byron Bay, Australia
Hello dear friends,
Satori time in Byron bay, Australia is coming closer once again, Dec 3-9th held at Sangsurya Retreat centre - in case you feel inspired to join or feel to encourage a friend to participate the details can be found at:
I have noticed for many people this year has been a powerful time of upheavals and changes - Satori retreat can be a nourishing place to explore and integrate truth and understanding into your everyday life. Personally I find us coming together in "Satori space" is a time of diving deeply into clarity and opening into the wisdom of who we really are as we share this communal time together. I find it accelerates our process when we come together to consciously experience truth.
This year after Satori I will be once again facilitating a five day Intuition intensive, Dec 12-16th, which is a nice compliment to the Satori retreat, and I am thankful that Tony from Sangsurya has allowed me to host the event at Sangsurya and he is open to people staying on after Satori for the Intuition group (which is a non-residential seminar) that can be a supportive integration post Satori, to continue to be together and exploring what arises:
I am right now in my beloved Nepal, involving myself deeply with the communities in rebuilding after the earthquake. I am deeply touched by this experience and it most certainly gives me a lot to continue exploring of myself and others - if you would like to know a bit more please have a read here:
Plus I am, along with Rafael Ebner, hosting a Meditation & Yoga retreat here in Nepal in November:
I hope to see some of you soon in Australia (either at Satori or after gatherings), if our paths do not physically cross, I wish you deepening and opening life experiences!
Warm hugs & heartfelt love, Kira
I leave you with a few favourite Zen stories:
After winning several archery contests, the young and rather boastful champion challenged a Zen master who was renowned for his skill as an archer. The young man demonstrated remarkable technical proficiency when he hit a distant bull's eye on his first try, and then split that arrow with his second shot. "There," he said to the old man, "see if you can match that!" Undisturbed, the master did not draw his bow, but rather motioned for the young archer to follow him up the mountain. Curious about the old fellow's intentions, the champion followed him high into the mountain until they reached a deep chasm spanned by a rather flimsy and shaky log. Calmly stepping out onto the middle of the unsteady and certainly perilous bridge, the old master picked a far away tree as a target, drew his bow, and fired a clean, direct hit. "Now it is your turn," he said as he gracefully stepped back onto the safe ground. Staring with terror into the seemingly bottomless and beckoning abyss, the young man could not force himself to step out onto the log, no less shoot at a target. "You have much skill with your bow," the master said, sensing his challenger's predicament, "but you have little skill with the mind that lets loose the shot."
Word spread across the countryside about the wise Holy Man who lived in a small house atop the mountain. A man from the village decided to make the long and difficult journey to visit him. When he arrived at the house, he saw an old servant inside who greeted him at the door. "I would like to see the wise Holy Man," he said to the servant. The servant smiled and led him inside. As they walked through the house, the man from the village looked eagerly around the house, anticipating his encounter with the Holy Man. Before he knew it, he had been led to the back door and escorted outside. He stopped and turned to the servant, "But I want to see the Holy Man!" "You already have," said the old man. "Everyone you may meet in life, even if they appear plain and insignificant... see each of them as a wise Holy Man.
If you do this, then whatever problem you brought here today will be solved."
The Moon Cannot Be Stolen
A Zen Master lived the simplest kind of life in a little hut at the foot of a mountain. One evening, while he was away, a thief sneaked into the hut only to find there was nothing in it to steal. The Zen Master returned and found him. "You have come a long way to visit me," he told the prowler, "and you should not return empty handed. Please take my clothes as a gift." The thief was bewildered, but he took the clothes and ran away. The Master sat naked, watching the moon. "Poor fellow," he mused, " I wish I could give him this beautiful moon."
A Tibetan story tells of a meditation student who, while meditating in his room, believed he saw a spider descending in front of him. Each day the menacing creature returned, growing larger and larger each time. So frightened was the student, that he went to his teacher to report his dilemma. He said he planned to place a knife in his lap during meditation, so when the spider appeared he would kill it. The teacher advised him against this plan. Instead, he suggested, bring a piece of chalk to meditation, and when the spider appeared, mark an "X" on its belly. Then report back.
The student returned to his meditation. When the spider again appeared, he resisted the urge to attack it, and instead did just what the master suggested.
When he later reported back to the master, the teacher told him to lift up his shirt and look at his own belly. There was the "X".
The Mind and Life Dialogue "Power and Care"
Sept 10-12 in Brussels a wonderful collection of wise elders, visionaries, artists, scientists and the Dalai Lama came together to discuss the theme of "Power and Care" from various perspectives with the intention to bring these dialogues into our general awareness and discussions. The event was inspired by Dr Tania Singer, an inspiring and innovative scientist as well a heartful woman making a difference in the world – someone I am happy to call a friend! The discussions are in the format of a panel, each with a theme. It is quite some hours but worthwhile to truly receive the variety of insights and wise commentaries.
Session 1 of the Mind and Life Dialogue "Power and Care - Personal Commitment and Global Responsibility".
Session 2 of the Mind and Life Dialogue "Power and Care - Perspectives from Spiritual and Religious Traditions".
Session 3 of the Mind and Life Dialogue "Power and Care - Perspectives from Spiritual and Religious Traditions".
Session 4 of the Mind & Life Dialogue: "Power and Care - Perspectives from Economics and Society".
Session 5 of the Mind and Life Dialogue "Power and Care - Personal Commitment and Global Responsibility".
Some weekend contemplation
Alan Steinfeld interviewing Bruce Lipton, who shares some powerful insights/understandings that have the potential to be life changing. I resonate with much of Bruce Lipton's views and I love Alan's insightful questions. I do feel that having material like this can indeed help us all to think a bit outside our normal conditioned beliefs and that can be wholesomely healthier for all of us!
News update from Kira, August 2016
News Update from Kira Kay, August 2016
Deutsch Version hier: http://eepurl.com/cayABr
Hello dear friends,
I happened across something surprising this morning – my local news provider now has a dedicated segment for “good news,” news that is uplifting, news about people inspiring, supporting and helping other people. I would love that this would be our “main” news and that we would have much smaller sections of what is currently our main news – dedicated news of war, murders and misfortune that incites fear, mistrust and anxiety. What might our world be like if this was turned around? If good news dominated our airwaves, TVs and the internet?
I do truly believe that humans are inherently kind and compassionate. We are born with natural capacity for all emotions, and with empathy – the ability to understand and feel what others experience. We are biologically designed to be in communities, to support one another for survival. Yet most of us these days are conditioned to look at life through the lenses of fear and mistrust, to center our survival on our self and not our whole community. With these coloured lenses it is easier to understand the assumptions and confusion that arise – cementing further the belief that we live in an unsafe world – and the consequent dysfunction of healthy communities.
Sure, there are people who will misuse and take advantage of others – especially the vulnerable – however in my opinion these are a minority. They gain power, prestige and dominance when we “give” them power, when we invest in fear and anxiety. The majority of us wish to live lives of peace, harmony and ease - no matter our colour, culture, gender or spiritual belief. We want to be treated with respect, kindness, love, and appreciation and to feel valued, seen, and heard, and to experience a sense of belonging.
Take a moment now to listen inside your own heart and allow your deepest truths. How would you truly like others to treat you, to see you? Breathe a few breaths and really reflect upon that question. I can imagine that many of you reading this will have come up with words such as: kindness, respect, with love, inclusion, empathy, and compassion. I doubt that many of you came up with words such as: hatred, disregard, exclusion, less than, lower than, judgement or animosity.
Given the dominance of a negative focus in our media and the current culture of dramatic reporting on death, disturbances and disasters as a main focus and the emphasis on how unsafe we are (escalating even further this past decade with the overuse of the word terrorism) it is no wonder that we become paranoid and untrusting of our fellow human beings. This out-of-balance media reporting has also normalised aberrant behaviours; we incorporate into everyday usage words, actions and games that accept rape, murder and hate crimes. These are not normal. A well-balanced person will find it incredibly difficult to truly kill another person. But if they have had thousands of hours witnessing and vicariously killing of other people through media, it becomes far easier. Is this really normal? No, it is not.
Can we make a difference? Can we reverse this perversion of our naturally compassionate nature? Yes, we can. Is it difficult? No, it isn’t. We simply need to practice healthy habits and encourage that in our families and communities, to realign with our true nature, to consciously remember that we do wish to be cared for, that we do wish to care for others – that love does heal.
People who commit horrendous crimes of murder or otherwise cause pain and suffering are not in balance. It does not help to condemn them. Our hate and anger will simply fuel their imbalance and further create potential suffering and drama. These people need our care, love and understanding. Some may have the psychological or even biological incapacity to change or evolve into natural balance, yet they still require love and compassion to find a way and place to be that is safe for themselves and others.
I have dedicated my life to exploring humanity – my own and others. I consider it a life-long exploration that never ends. What I have discovered for myself thus far is that being a human is truly a gift. It may not always be easy to see it as a gift, as we may have such a variety of emotions and experiences that are not all pleasant. Nonetheless, I genuinely consider all aspects of being human is a gift. I have had the privilege, throughout my life, of being immersed in several different cultures and countries. This has given me a window of insight underneath our cultural and religious beliefs, beyond the colour of our skin. What I see is that we all aspire to the same essential truths – to be loved and accepted, to belong.
If you have read this far then I heart-fully ask you to join me in the revolution of love and compassion. To join a wave of compassion in action that is already gaining momentum. Many people are choosing to act from their heart, to listen to their own inner wisdom and intuition rather than their conditioned beliefs. I am thankful to have met many such people. And every single person who consciously joins this compassion in action has a multiplying effect. Join us.
It can be as simple as when you are walking down the street or on public transport to genuinely smile at other people, to meet their eyes with respectful feeling. You will benefit from this, as when another person feels “seen” they light up, they shine as if a flower has opened. This fragrance of opening affects all of us. As you give of yourself so you will gain.
If you hear of someone requiring assistance, volunteer. Choose to be proactive in supporting. When we help another person sincerely from our heart it is often so rewarding to see their relief and gratitude. I can say honestly that wherever you are, whichever country/city/town, there is a need for a helping hand. Reach out your hand, your heart. My personal experience in doing this is that I gain tenfold back what I give out. If you feel to share news with other people, either over a coffee or by media, consciously choose good news – uplifting stories of what is positively happening. Choose to look for healthy initiatives in your own life and the communities around you. Be mindful of the language that you use in everyday situations. Is it focused on negative, or opening outcomes? What we think, what we invest in, literally creates the reality in which we live – what do you choose to invest in? And therefore directly benefit from 😊
Many of you know of my involvement in Nepal with supporting of local initiatives to uplift people – it has continued to be an amazing journey of growth of development for all of us involved this past year post earthquake – visit my charity website: http://www.handswithhands.com for news updates and progress. I can certainly say this is one good news initiative that I have been directly involved with and can invite others to collaborate with us further! And thank you to everyone who has heartfully supported and participated this past year - there is much continuing to unfold in our rebuilding efforts and I appreciate the continued support and encouragement from many of you.
others & yourself. Together we do make a difference to ourselves & each other!
Upcoming events with Kira:
Coming together in a supportive environment with guidance and encouragement can help you to see yourself and others more clearly with compassion.
* August 25–28th Intuition & Meditation for Daily Life: held out at Zegg community. Carlos will join Kira with his Crystal Delight sounds & Rafael with meditative yoga, which adds variety & depth to our time together, join us in exploring inner wisdom & truth with fun.
* Nov 13–21st Meditation & Yoga in the Himalayan Mountains in Nepal: Kira will be joined by Rafael to help facilitate an unforgettable experience of meditation in action & stillness.
* Dec 3–9th Satori Retreat, Byron Bay, Australia 6 days of deeply & honestly uncovering "who you really are," in a process that is beautifully evolved to help you discover "you". Intimately experience your own illumination of truth & discovery of self.
* Dec 12–16th Intuition 5-day Intensive, Byron Bay, Australia: "Intuition is my passion and I support you in these five days to practice and evolve your own capacity to "see" more clearly & deeply what is right here within you & around you - now." (Kira Kay)
in the next months!