Welcome to my "Kira's Blog"!
I thought that this would be an easy and helpful way of staying in more contact. I get so many emails I don't get to answer them all, or take so long in answering some people wonder if I am still getting their emails! So I thought I could share bits and pieces of interest here, post them as they come along into my life.
Evolution of Teenagers – co-creating and supporting our future leaders
It has just come out in the science/health news these past weeks that teenagers/adolescents are determined to be from 10-24 instead of 10-19.
In the past few weeks, science and health news has reported that the teen/adolescent years – once thought to be from age 10 to 19 – are now considered from 10 to 24.This news is deeply confirming for me, as I have long felt and intuited that we are still developing our cognitive and emotional maturity in our early 20s. Personally, I would put the age up even further, to 27 or 28. Recent neurobiology research has pointed to the fact that our ability to perceive and understand consequences (the domain of the prefrontal cortex of our brain) is not fully developed in our teenage years and can clearly lead to behaviours that are not helpful – as many parents I am sure can agree!
If we consider this as a fact then, it is clear that we do need to give our teenagers and young adults continued support and encouragement to develop in healthy ways. This is not the sole responsibility of parents. This is a whole society responsibility. We all co-create the environment we live in. To abdicate this and say it is his/her fault is not, in my opinion, a healthy way for any of us to co-evolve our community. Our younger generation will be our future leaders – this is not a hypothesis, this is reality. Do we wish to have our future leaders disempowered, believing they are not relevant and feeling antipathy towards older generations? That is not a world in which I wish to live.
How might we do things differently? I think there are many ways we can each contribute. For our own children, we can become participants in their life, working with them and realising that experiences they may be having are growth and consciousness experiences. Teaching our children to meditate and to reflect and have contemplative practices equips them with the tools for their own evolution. We need to have the conversations that matter with them – not just rules and what you “have to” do or not do! We need to give space for the outbursts of energy and help them to have these experiences in safe ways that enable healthy reflection.
Our minds are biologically programmed to look for the negative and recognise danger. Our media and modern day conditioning magnify this adverse perspective. Furthermore, if our children do not have healthy models of behaviour and are repeatedly fed a negative narrative, if we do not give them good reasons and examples, why would they look beyond the prevailing drama and unhealthy choices?
If we encourage our children also to look for and recognise the whole of reality, then they may better equipped to see the world as it really is. This will enable them to be balanced in their decision making, to be creative, compassionate, and inspired as they look forward into their future.
When we open to the fact that there is more potential, more information and guidance available to us than we are consciously aware of – whether through meditation, prayer, inspiration – then we are accessing clarity that supports our own and others’ lives. How marvelous it could be if our children – our younger generations – engage and utilize their gifts of clarity, compassion and insight in ways that evolve them.
The talk posted below is inspiring: two men, a father and a grandfather who evolved through tragedy, embraced forgiveness, and now pass on healthy messages of non-violence and compassion – real tools that create open life options for teenagers and young adults. We all contribute to children’s upbringing. It does indeed require a community raise healthy adults. If we wish for a safe and happier community then let us all help raise the next generations! This is a deeply moving and heart touching story, and an empowering initiative
Tariq Khamisa Foundation: The mission of the Tariq Khamisa Foundation is to create safer schools and communities through educating and inspiring children in the restorative principles of accountability, compassion, forgiveness, and peacemaking https://tkf.org/
If at defining moments in our lives we can make the right choices we literally manifest miracles in ourselves and in others.
New Years 2018 Greeting from Kira
I found myself sitting quietly in the forest at sunrise 2018 reflecting on the gifts, the opportunities, the potential of this year ahead – a practice that I like to do each year. I find it helps to become aware of the openings and to highlight what I may step into, of what may be of support for this year 2018. (to listen to my voice recording scroll to end)
As I tune in this morning I get a reminder of patience – that things may not happen as fast or in the direction that I may wish or want. Yet if I give space, allow myself to relax and even literally to sit down, feel the air on my skin, hear the sounds around me, feel my breath in my body – to really feel my-self – then I may gain greater wisdom to deal with the problems and obstacles that may present on the path ahead. It may also support me to be in the right place and time to see the gifts that may not be so obvious, the new growths that may need the quiet and subtlety to see clearly. When I think of the wider world, the economy, the geo-political issues that feels very relevant. The world around us can seem according to everyday news very dramatic or disturbing and yet as we take a breath and allow ourselves to come into a stillness we may touch that innate natural goodness we all have within us, where healthy growth arises, where empathy and compassion live.
As I sit right now in the forest, one that like many forest has undergone trials and fires and some of the old trees are falling down and some bearing deep burns, and yet all around me in new growth, new trees, old trees, brushes with fresh new growth, a reminder of how resilient we are – human beings, the earth, nature – how our natural aspiration to grow is dominant within all of us. And maybe that is a good thing to remember in 2018 as things unfold both in our personal lives and in the wider world around us – to not get caught up in the drama, to remember to take that breath and to come back within, remembering to find the many things to be grateful for in our lives. As I was walking up to my sunrise place I was reflecting on being grateful that the sun does rise every day – even if I am unaware of it, the clouds may obscure it or I may be busy and occupied with my life and not be consciously aware of this amazing gift of life that the sun is sharing with us every single day.
I think each one of us can find many things small and large to be thankful and grateful for. I know when I am in touch with that gratefulness it is much easier to not only see the blessings I am grateful for but also more about everything including the difficulties or problems, to perceive clearly and have insight and understanding that can help me navigate with more ease. To remember that there is always support around even when we may feel very forsaken, left behind or abandoned by others – to remember that indeed we are not – that we are loved, we are cared about even if some days we are not in touch with that truth, just as some days we do not notice the sun bringing its light and the gift of life it bequeaths us. And maybe it is good to keep in mind this year that most of us at some time feel very alone, unloved and unappreciated so I would encourage all of us this year to say to those we love, to friends, to perfect strangers – thank you, I see you, I appreciate you, I love you, I value what you bring into my life, in this day in this situation, to me. To remind each other that we really do care.
Often when we see a young child or animal we can allow our love and caring to flow more abundantly – so I invite us all in 2018 to perhaps consider that those people who trigger or upset us the most need our love and care even more than the innocents where it is easy to love. To find moments this year to relax and to breath and perhaps find some nature to remind you of the alive stillness that can often naturally remind us of the truths and inner wisdom that can evoke the experience of subtle aliveness – still, still moving. To touch this place within us to find our deeper wisdom, to find the peace and understanding and our potential for compassion for ourselves and each other no matter what is arising no matter what seeming difficult situations occur – to remember that we are supported, that love does prevail, that humanity individually and collectively, does have a greater potential of caring and compassion. That is the intention I am holding forward for myself this year, for my friends for all of humanity. I hold the intention that we can find the new beginnings again and again despite what might arise.
I wish everyone a wonderful new year and look forward to our paths crossing and may we all have peace, fulfillment, delight, and joy, laughter the ability to smile no mater what unfolds on the path ahead! With much love to everyone – Kira Kay
You can listen yo my audio on Soundcloud here: https://soundcloud.com/kira-kay-986405680/kira-kay-new-year-2018-greetings
Give a Gift of Giving - that Keeps On Giving!
Give a Gift of Giving - that Keeps On Giving!
Wishing everyone a delightfully lovely & relaxed Christmas!
For many of us, as this Holiday season unfolds, we enter the season of giving and receiving. I personally experience giving as a gift of receiving. As I give of my time, energy or money I enjoy seeing others gain benefit – creating a round circle of giving and receiving. Therefore I heartfully invite all my friends and family to give generously this season and enjoy the benefits of doing so! And, I can highlight my own social welfare projects in Nepal as a good option for gifting! Perhaps share of your own abundance to benefit others
Many of you already know of my efforts in Nepal, mostly supporting education and empowerment for children and women - including safe eco-rebuilding, post 2015 earthquake.
Over the past 17 years, I have been blessed with this journey of supporting others, seeing them evolve and grow into their potential. I do, however, really need ongoing funds to help these efforts continue into the future, so your donations are very much welcomed. Maybe your business/work holiday gathering can make a collection on our behalf? (I can offer tax receipts for EU donations.)
I welcome you to share this note far and wide with your colleagues, friends and family, as you enjoy this festive season of joy and giving!
This link is my current Wish List. All donated funds are used directly in Nepal. My own time and effort are 100% volunteered! http://www.handswithhands.com/get-invo.../adopt-a-project.html
For (good!) news and information about the various projects that I am supporting please visit: http://handswithhands.com/news.html
Donations can be made:
1. By sending to my German Charity account:
Account name: Hands with Hands e.V.
Bank: GLS Gemeinschaftsbank eG - address: Christstraße 9, 44789 Bochum, Germany
IBAN: DE46 4306 0967 1135 8729 00
(Receipt for tax within EU available if donations made to this account)
May this ‘Gift of Giving’
as it brings hope, trust 🙏
and a positive outlook
to those families it will benefit.
Hands–with-Hands we do all Build a Better Future!
Satori 2017 Reminder
Hello dear Satori friends …
Satori time is coming closer once again ... December 10-16th once again at Sangsurya - in case you feel inspired to join or feel to encourage a friend to participate the details can be found on my webpage:
I have noticed for many people this year has been a powerful time upheavals and changes - Satori retreat can be a nourishing place to explore and integrate truth and understanding into your everyday life. Personally I find us coming together in "Satori space" is a time of diving deeply into clarity and opening into wisdom of who we really are as we share this communal time together. I find it accelerates our process when we come together to consciously experience truth and can support integration.
There has also been big changes at Sangsurya with Tony's death earlier this year - thankfully Tony's intention for Sangsurya to continue to be a place for people to gather and explore truth is unfolding under the guidance of Shirsha and the rest of the team who have supported Tony the past years. This upcoming weekend (Sept30th & Oct 1st) there is a Working Bee at Sansurya if anyone feels inspired to give their time and contribution to help this beautiful place continue being a gift to all of us. Details of the Working Bee can be found here: https://gallery.mailchimp.com/f5badc23470ef590c32713627/images/2c4efeec-fc3c-4178-bd68-db98cb4e7f0c.jpg
This year after Satori I will be once again facilitating a five day Intuition intensive, which is a nice compliment to the Satori retreat, and I am thankful that again this year the Sangsurya Team has allowed me to host the event at Sangsurya people can stay on after Satori for the Intuition group (which is a non-residential seminar) which can be a supportive integration post Satori, to continue to be together and exploring what arises:
I am almost on my way to beloved Nepal to once again immerse in rebuilding after the earthquake and time with the women and children I support. I am deeply touched by this experience and it most certainly gives me a lot to continue exploring of myself and others - if you would like to know a bit more please have a read here:
I hope to see some of you soon in Australia (either at Satori or after gatherings), if our paths do not physically cross, I wish you opening and grace as your path in life unfolds 💕
Warm hugs & heartfelt love, Kira
I leave you with a few favourite Zen stories:
A famous spiritual teacher came to the front door of the King's palace. None of the guards tried to stop him as he entered and made his way to where the
King himself was sitting on his throne.
"What do you want?" asked the King, immediately recognizing the visitor.
"I would like a place to sleep in this inn," replied the teacher.
"But this is not an inn," said the King, "It is my palace."
"May I ask who owned this palace before you?"
"My father. He is dead."
"And who owned it before him?"
"My grandfather. He too is dead."
"And this place where people live for a short time and then move on - did I hear you say that it is NOT an inn?"
A new student approached the Zen master and asked how he should prepare himself for his training. "Think of me a bell," the master explained. "Give me a soft tap, and you will get a tiny ping. Strike hard, and you'll receive a loud, resounding peal."
Yamaoka Tesshu, as a young student of Zen, visited one master after another. He called upon Dokuon of Shokoku. Desiring to show his attainment, he said: "The mind, Buddha, and sentient beings, after all, do not exist. The true nature of phenomena is emptiness. There is no realization, no delusion, no sage, no mediocrity. There is no giving and nothing to be received." Dokuon, who was smoking quietly, said nothing. Suddenly he whacked Yamaoka with his bamboo pipe. This made the youth quite angry. "If nothing exists," inquired Dokuon, "where did this anger come from?"
A Cup of Tea
Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.
Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then kept on pouring.
The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. "It is overfull. No more will go in!"
"Like this cup," Nan-in said, "you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?"
21 years ago I fell in love
21 years ago I fell in love - with the country, people and culture of Nepal It continues to be an amazing, growing, deepening and empowering journey! The last two years have been especially an exponential experience of growth since enduring the massive earthquake alongside my Nepali friends and families. Please enjoy to read this news update I compiled where I share some of the complexities and achievements in the past two years. I am so appreciative of the many people who are part of my life & journey - love is indeed a shared experience! ♥
Laughter Medicine is good for Mind, Body & Soul!
Our ability to laugh, play and connect with each other and our surroundings is a natural gift that allows our bodies to be healthier, our mind to relax, our creative spirit to engage and our hearts to be happier There is immense value in literally laughing out loud till your belly hurts – the healthy endorphins released wonderfully naturally counter the daily stresses that we tend to accumulate and automatically hold onto. Even in difficult and imprisoned (physical and mentally) situations we can find freedom when we allow it ... this short video is a lovely reminder to play, enjoy and laugh...
Good Morning 2017!
Good morning 2017, I wonder what this year will be?
I was contemplating this question as I sat this New Years early morning in one of my most favourite places in the world, the Whian forest - a magical place - full of so much diversity. When I am in Nature it is always a reminder to me about the complexity of Life and the wholeness of Life. Sitting in amongst the decay, the broken branches and uprooted trees and yet all about me is new growth, new life coexisting with death. This could be a metaphor for 2017. Many people faced challenges and difficulties 2016 (and previous years!) so perhaps our outlook for 2017 can be one of inclusion. Including that there are challenges and difficulties - we can't deny them anyway! That would be like saying: “hey, that big uprooted tree is not there” when in fact it is! Sometimes we just need to make our way regardless, to find our own path realising that sometimes we may need to cut our path through the challenges, difficulties and obstacles that life presents us with. What has often been a support for me is to focus on where the new Life is. I have always had a curious nature and that has supported and helped me to look for what else is 'here' even when challenges and difficulties arise.
If you have trouble finding the new growth in your own life then perhaps take some time in Nature. Take some time to sit quietly; close your eyes take a few deep breaths before softly opening your eyes in a gently receptive way. Be open to see what you may not ordinarily let yourself see, allowing yourself to be surprised. Allowing ourselves to be surprised, giving space for what we really truly don't know; what may be unexpected in nice ways. And when something does cross our path to take that extra moment, even if your mind has decided it's not good or it is something unpleasant or a too hard – to gently remind yourself and say, “I don't know”. Maybe, just maybe, there is something more in this situation than I thought, maybe there's something that I can't see because I don't know just yet. Giving space for not knowing can open doorways into opportunities and certainly can help release tensions that we hold when we are invested and supporting our fear. If you look at a little child - say five or six years old - just playing, giving themselves permission to laugh and get it wrong - when they drop something, they simply pick it up again. That innocent twinkle in their eyes not judging that dropping the ball is wrong, it’s fun, it’s a game, drop it again and again!
How would it be if we were like that with ourselves, investing in that childlike innocence and sweetness? I think we can touch that innocence but we need to remember. Remembering to support ourselves and also to be supportive of each other. Sometimes we can get caught up in our daily life - it is very easy for our mind that is conditioned to look for problems to focus then on problems, fear and anxiety. Yet if we can remember to smile and chuckle to ourselves, to play a bit, then perhaps we might see more in that moment about the situation that can help us navigate with more ease, grace and with more space in our heart.
Coming back to 2017 as the year of inclusion - I don't know what that means! Perhaps I can tell you at the end of this year 😇 Each of us will have an individual journey and your message on this first day of 2017 will be uniquely yours. Perhaps we may have some resonances such as unexpected nice surprises or being delighted in many small ways throughout this year by the gifts that life will present to us on our path.
I look forward to crossing paths with some of you over the next year and for some of you who I may not physically get to see, please know that I often feel in touch with many of my friends and people who I have met in different contexts – I experience a sense of wider community and with all of us (who are to the best of our ability!) consciously exploring and looking for our own potential and that of humanity.
I end with a heartfelt wish on this New Year of 2017, a year that is exactly right for you 💕
Respond with kindness and care … not fear.
Thank you for those who reached out to ask if I was safe after the heartbreaking event in Berlin (Dec 19th) - I was not in Berlin at the time but in Australia far from the current event physically yet close in my heart to all these who maybe feeling distress, sadness and fear right now. I deeply feel for those who are directly affected and share my heartfelt love & care & simply holding "you"
I sincerely ask all of us right now to respond to each other with kindness and care ... and to not support fear. Events like this are perpetuated by those who are not in balance - they need our compassion, not fear & aggression. This does not negate grief or heart ache - it is truly human to feel for those who have lost their lives so suddenly and violently, and I especially feel for their families and beloveds who may struggle right now to understand what has happened. Yet I truly ask all my friends to reach inside to find a deeper capacity for truth and understanding right now. And to be particularly aware of what stories you share and post online. I suggest that you ask yourself if the communication you are intending on sharing is invoking compassion or fear? For another human to intentionally cause harm or death to another generally means they are not mentally stable/balanced - which can be for various reasons. Being angry "at" them does not help anyone. If anger or upset is arising then perhaps delve inside to find another level of truth for yourself and explore what that might mean for you.
And, I say again, I feel deeply for those who have personally been affected by this Berlin event either directly or indirectly ... as I feel with so many who are feeling the effects of man made &/or natural violent events unfolding around the world ... May we turn to each other in times of despair with kindness and care ❤️